I’m Not a Feminist and I Don’t Plan To Be

Any person that doesn’t believe in “feminism” is automatically shunned. You’re told that if you don’t believe in feminism, you must not understand it. I do understand the supposed goals of feminism. I understand that “true” feminism is against those who man-bash, and I understand that the basis of feminism is for equality. Like it or not the platform for feminism automatically isolates nearly half the population. Many of the group supporters seem to have the idea that men have been doing fine for centuries so their voices aren’t that important. If a movement wants true equality, beyond that of gender stereotypes the first move they should make is to remove all barriers. Perhaps my greatest discomfort with feminism comes from the name itself. If feminism were truly an equal gender-stereotype free movement there would be no “femin” (female) in the name. It would be simply the equalist movement. That’s a movement I may widely consider joining. I have no problem in wanting women to have a fair shot: equal wages, equal education, and equal chances. However, this should not come at a cost to men.

These days many guys I know feel backed into a corner. If a woman looks at them the wrong way and so much as whispers the R word, they feel they will be imprisoned. Is this right? No. Are there still women being violated? Yes. That does not mean you should treat all men like they are the problem. Some women use the feminist excuse as a way to torture men. They believe men are a lesser being and should be treated like crap because of all they have done over the years. I understand that this isn’t the feminist way, but it IS a problem with perpetuating women as better than men that helps these people rationalize their idiotic behaviour. I’m not a feminist. I am pro-equality. There are no labels or strings attached to my equality – human is human. Do good to me, I’ll do good to you.

Recently a Facebook and Tumblr page I have been supporting for months has come under fire. It shows one clear message: Feminists are angry with us.

Some feminists have taken to sharing photos shown on the site and bashing the women in them, and their messages. They have insulted the intelligence of the women who support this group, and they have bullied and belittled them. They are doing this in the name of “women’s rights“.

One woman was tracked down, online, by a feminist and attacked because her child, who is two, is autistic. These are the women “fighting” for all women. These are the people who think they should be the voice for us all.

I have not once attacked Feminists based on the ideals, and basic message of Feminism. I too, like many women, believe we deserve equality. We also deserve respect, and the right to make up our own minds. Today’s feminism is not needed as much as a wide-spread ideal to protect all people. Men are people too.

I don’t want to fight with feminists over the definition. I don’t want to fight with them because “feminism believes in equality”. I want equality because I am human. I want other humans, of all backgrounds, to feel safe and respected.

I don’t need feminism because I am not defined by gender, I am defined by heart and spirit.

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