I’m going to try to write this post without reeling. Facebook is not a way of life, it’s a tool. Back in the days of Myspace, a nerdy crowd was giggled at and tormented for posting their every thought, ambition, and action on the internet. Back in the Myspace-era many every day people were confused why anybody would want an online presence, now, if you don’t have Facebook, you’re seen as odd. What are you hiding? What do you do with your day? How is your relationship valid if everybody doesn’t know. Surely your significant other will leave you for somebody with an online presence.
I’m not dissing Facebook here. It’s a site that allows us to connect with the world around us and, if used correctly, allows us to heighten our social relationships. However, “liking” a photo on facebook should never come before actually calling a person, or better yet (if they’re close and it allows) seeing them in person.
Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt.
Your every thought and action don’t need to be on the internet. Once something is shared, it COULD be permanent. You can’t undo the damage that’s done by dozens, and maybe even hundreds of people seeing the nasty comment you left your sister, or the rant about your boss. Relationships, jobs, and other important aspects of everyday life HAVE been ruined all because of a few words on Facebook. Worse than that, there are situations where family members have been informed of the death of a loved one because of a status on Facebook. There is a reason why police do not say who was killed in an accident in a news article. Social media has none of the filters necessary that are seen in TRUE AND RICH media. Yes, the news can get things wrong, but for the most part they protect the families. There is nothing more shameful than a person finding out about the death of a beloved family member or friend because of an “RIP” status on Facebook.
Here is an interesting article about whether or not a 90 day break from Facebook can make you happier. It’s worth a look. CTV News: FB Study